This expression isn’t about selfishness, but it is actually more about being your best self so that you can be your best for others. I have never been a selfish person, but I know that I need to make sure that I am functioning at my highest possible level in every area of my life. How do I do that? First, let me tell you how I don’t do that. I don’t do that by being sleep deprived and spreading myself so thin that I am constantly exhausted. I don’t do that by not eating. Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean that you are selfish and don’t give anyone your time or talents, but it does mean that you know when to say NO. It is okay to say NO to people when you are tired and you need a break. This week has been one of the best of my life, but at some point I needed to sleep a good 10 hours and just recuperate my mind and body. Between job applications, wedding planning, school applications to graduate programs and catching up with old friends, I was on the go all day every day. That isn’t a good way to live. I have a new focus on what I want to do with my life and I have a plan. I am reminded of the words of Jeremiah, when God tells the Israelites that he has a plan for them. (29:11) Today is going to be a fun day. It is okay to have fun in life and I’ve had a fun week. I’ve worked very hard on a lot of different things and now it’s time for some R&R. As for that wedding planning- her name is Brittany and I love her. How are you at your best? By taking care of yourself and treating your body as a machine that you have to shut down and reboot from time to time. I’m sure that I came across as a wild man on social media this week and that just isn’t the case. Please don’t look at me through the eyes of my social media posts and think you know my life. Just ask me questions and I’ll give you the truth. Here is to hoping TPS emails me about an interview and I can become a substitute teacher. I love you all. God bless and have a great day.
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I am currently working on creating a new blog. This one is nice, and I will post a link to the new one soon, but I want something fresh and more updated. Links to the new blog will be posted here periodically. That new blog page will include anything from posts about Politics, Pop Culture, Music, Movies and Sports. I will try to blog at least once every few days to continuously hone my writing skills as I one day dream of a career in journalism. Hope you enjoy reading on many different topics God bless and have a great night.
I have Abba (my heavenly father), Stacey(my dad who helped raise me since i was about 9 years old, and my birth father Wililam. This weekend has been tumultuous to say the least, and through the years I’ve thought a couple of time of changing my full name to take the name of my grandfather, Don Ray Roepke. I was thinking about this today as I briefly mentioned it at work, and hours later my grandpa was in the hospital. This week has been the best week of my life for about a half a dozen reasons, but about three of those are too personal to share here. There are certain things that will be between, me God and my wife and one of the things that happened this week had to do with that. I finally let go and I am more at peace in my walk than I have ever been. I am reunited with my birth father, and while I’m not sure we will ever meet again in person, we have reconciled and after over 20 years of him being out of my life, he is back in, even if through email. Abba is daddy, and that is my heavenly father. I can always run to His arms, sobbing, letting go and laying everything down. I will never have a father like that. Nobody will ever compare and that is the main point of this post. I am not to the point of perfection, because that will only happen in heaven, but I feel more at peace and mature in my walk with Christ than I ever have. Being obedient to Him is the best thing I have ever done.
With all of that said, back to the name changing thing. I thought about changing my last name to Roepke, but I would still have Don Theodore Roepke, which doesn’t seem right, only because if I take my grandfathers name, having my father’s father’s name in there seems out of place only because I would want to honor my grandfather Don, not forgetting Theodore, but simply being called Don Ray Roepke the second. For now, I think I will keep my last name, as I should not erase a lineage, simply because of some actions of my birth father that he has already paid time for and made peace with. He is forgiven, to erase his name would be dishonoring him. My mom and father were married, naturally I take the last name of my father, and move on, events took place that lead to a divorce. Years went by and I kept the last name. My last name has been Melden for 25 years and I don’t think I should change that. It would be a nice honor to my grandpa to take his full name, but I think I could just honor him with the way that I live. Say a prayer for Don Ray tonight please as he is in the hospital. I trust God with whatever happens, but I love grandpa and I don’t want to see him go. I will never share my full life story, even if it seems I may have just there, but this being a sort of journal for me, I know only a few people read this on a regular basis and they likely know all of this already. To the people that read this thank you, you have just seen a bit of my soul.
Past, Present, Future, Love
I’m lonely, but I’m not alone
I’m a pessimist, so my bed and my heart are both half empty
You may have known the happier me
It seems these days I can come off desparate
I don’t want it to be that way
Its just how things are
Sometimes I can go for a drive
And listen to old songs that remind me of those better times
When life was easier and not so damn confusing
Perhaps it’s my fault, after all, I tend to overthink
And thats not healthy
But what is these days?
I have no regrets
There were no bitter breakups
No hearts broken because I love yous were spoken
In fact I’ve never said those words
Except to my mother or sisters or brother or best friends
And you weren’t any of those things
You are gone, but you live on in memories and pictures
You aren’t gone, you are making new memories and taking new pictures
It is nobodies fault
Perhaps it is my fault if anything, because now there is apathy
Not sadness, not loneliness
Not anger, towards any of you
None of you left me broken or alone, well I guess alone
But I’m not bitter
There is no resentment
Only a longing to find someone
Blueprint is a weird word to use for somebody I want to love one day
But you are her, it’s just a shame I never took a shot
I guess that is my one regret, not taking the risks
Settling for relationships that both of us settled into
Nothing so serious as to saying those words one longs to here
But a spark that makes you think it could be something
Only to not see it get there
I can close my eyes and think of you
The one I have never met but love already
It may be strange but the past is gone and I want to only see you
My future wife
I have found a reason to run the half Marathon in April. I’ve been training for a little over a month now, and until Tuesday I didn’t have a good reason for running other than getting healthy and into shape. Well, I have found a reason and it is to honor two families I love. One(my second family, the Keils) and another a family I have grown closer to and specifically two brothers, Kyler and Keegan. Beyond that, this is a family of Christ thing.
Here is the deal. I want to honor my friends Kyler and Keegan’s mom Pam, who is currently battling breast cancer, as well as honoring my friends Jake and Nathan’s late uncle John. What that looks like, is raising money for the Susan G Komen for the cure foundation and helping support the Keil family in any way possible through funeral costs or hospital costs that came as a result of John’s long battle with cancer.
I hope and pray that as many people as possible will know about this, and not because I can run 13.1 miles (hopefully) and train for two months and lose lots of weight, but because this is about these lives and supporting them as my family in Christ. Prayer, donations, and support are welcome in any form. This is more about community than anything else, and I am humbled and honored to run for this cause.
The deadline to give is April 28th. That sunday I will be going anywhere a jar has been sent and I will collect the money. The next monday I will deposit that money, (make sure it is posted so the check doesn’t bounce) and write checks for the two causes. I am hoping to set these up at different locations, including Main Street Church 705 campus, Hope Community Church and the Northwood Church of God and if you want to set one up contact me at (419)346-7307 or email me at email@example.com
It is my hope to fill jars and jars of coins that add to a big donation to breast cancer research and to support Pam and remember John through this long time of training. I will leave you with a couple of verses that will be encouraging me and I hope encourage you as well to know that God is with you and for you. The first is from the disciple. Paul and I will follow with why this verse means so much. Thank you all so much in advance for all of your support.
1 Corinthians 9:24-27
24 Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one receives the prize? So run that you may obtain it. 25 Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. 26 So I do not run aimlessly; I do not box as one beating the air. 27 But I discipline my body and keep it under control,[a] lest after preaching to others I myself should be disqualified.
Who wants to run aimlessly? No one. Running is not really a fun thing to do, but it is exercise and we are to run for something. Running is a great way to stay fit, but if that was it, I’m not quite sure that would be enough of a motivation. Running is hard, it brings soreness, it brings fatigue, but through running, there is also peace, solidarity, a time to be with God and know that He is there. Through the soreness God will build us back up. Through the fatigue He will renew our strength. Two more verses.
The Lord is the everlasting God,
the Creator of the ends of the earth.
He does not faint or grow weary;
his understanding is unsearchable.
29 He gives power to the faint,
and to him who has no might he increases strength.
30 Even youths shall faint and be weary,
and young men shall fall exhausted;
31 but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength;
they shall mount up with wings like eagles;
they shall run and not be weary;
they shall walk and not faint.
28 Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
I will take a quick look back at 2012 and what I found to be the best movies and music of 2012. Oh, and I might just throw in a couple worst in their as well.
First things first- Music. There are quite a few that I could choose from. Here I will give my top 10 favorite songs of 2012 and add in some honorable mention. I will also give my best new artists as well as best of the year. What I will try to do is make sure that these are all new and none of them were on best songs or honorable mention of my 2011 lists. Time to make them all new. A clean slate if you will.
1. Re:Stacks- Bon Iver
2. Silver and Gold- City and Colour
3. Modern Age- Anberlin
4. Comes and Goes(In Waves)- Greg Laswell
5. Where Are You Now-Mumford and Sons
6. Jump Into The Fog-The Wombats
7. Take A Walk- Passion Pit
8. New Low- Middle Class Rut
9. Carousel- Morning Parade
10. Trojans-Atlas Genius
Honorable Mention: Headlights-Morning Parade, Mountain Sound-Of Monsters and Men, For Emma-Bon Iver, Natural Disasters-City and Colour, Shadow Days-John Mayer, Lights-Ellie Goulding, No Light, No Light-Florence and The Machine, We Come Running-Youngblood Hawke, Shake it Out-Florence and The Machine, 45-The Gaslight Anthem, Eyes Wide Open-Gotye, Bronte-Gotye, Down in the Valley-The Head and The Heart, Helplessness Blues-Fleet Foxes.
Movies: First I will give the 5 worst of the year. To be honest these might be by default, because I really didn’t see that many just plain awful movies.
2. The Devil Inside
3. Take Me Home Tonight
4. Just Go With It
5. Alvin and The Chipmunks: Chipwrecked
Martha Marcy May Marlene
God Bless America
The Amazing SpiderMan
Now for the top 10 of the year
1. The Perks of Being A Wallflower
2. Beasts of The Southern Wild
3. The Artist
4. Salmon Fishing In the Yemen
5. The Do-Deca Pentathalon
6. Django Unchained
7. Les Miserables
8. Ruby Sparks
9. The Help
10. Sound of My Voice
Carnage, We Need To Talk about Kevin, Trouble With the Curve, Safety Not Guaranteed, The Dark Knight Rises, Hugo, A Separation, Winter’s Bone, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, The Ides of March, Drive.
So there you have it. It’s pretty straightforward. 21 movies get recognition for being great and 9 bad with 25 great songs. What will 2013 bring?
This is a post for any guy that has ever felt awful about being stuck in the friendzone. I’m here to tell you… STOP!!!! It is healthy to be upset or disappointed if you are “crushing” on a girl and she says those 6 words “I just want to be friends” its rough, for a short time, but then again, you are to get over it. Move on and also, after that hurt goes away tell her thank you. Thank her for being a part of your life in a way that doesn’t come off creepy, but know that she is in your life for a reason. I will get to the 5 reasons why being in the friendzone isnt a bad thing but first a disclaimer and a fact about my life that will give you an insight to the reason why I think the way I do about this subject. If you can’t think about ONE reason why being in the friendzone (whoever you are) then this isn’t for you, because if you are going to complain about rejection and hurt than this isn’t for you, because this blog is about why it is important to have friends of the opposite sex and why having a close friend of the opposite sex is important. Sure, this blog is directed towards men, it is for everybody because everybody has been rejected at one point in their life. If you haven’t well then you are truly blessed. Now the fact about my life, I have never said the “L” word while in a relationship with a girl, and I don’t plan on doing that until I propose to my future wife. I guess I’ll let her read this after we’re married so she understands why I did that.
Here we go in no particular order, 5 reasons why being put in the friendzone isn’t a bad thing.
1. When you don’t start a relationship you prevent the possibility of either one of you being hurt by a breakup. Sure, whoever is denied might be hurt, but if you can get over the initial hurt you will gain a friend.
2. Having friends of the opposite sex can give you a blueprint for the qualities you are looking for in your future spouse. Let’s face it, we are all looking for someone to spend the rest of our life with (even if you don’t know it yet) and having friends that you enjoy spending time with will help you form a “prototype” of the boyfriend or girlfriend you want.
3. You will learn how to treat people. If you enjoy spending time with someone you will know how treat them and this will be a great experience for your future relationships. If you can’t get along with these people then you will know what you like or don’t like about these people. These lessons will be valuable in how you treat members of the opposite sex and how you expect to be treated. Girls if you are around guy friends that don’t treat you with respect just think “would I want my husband to act like this?” And guys, if you are with girls that don’t have a high opinion of you then you should reassess.
4. They will talk about you to their other friends. If you treat your friends well, they will tell their other friends about you and may feel comfortable enough to “fix you up” with their other single girlfriends, and heck, you might even meet your future wife this way.
5. This might be the most important reason on why having friends of the opposite sex is important. It prevents you from being uncomfortable and awkward around someone you like in the future and you can be “cool” and have good conversations with those people.
It takes a while to figure out who “the one” is and it’s different for everybody. So if you find yourself in the friendzone, don’t be discouraged just realize that God has somebody out there that is for you, and that person is looking for you just like you are looking for them. Enjoy the relationships you have, be content, don’t try to force things and live in the now, learn from the past and be positive about the future.
So there you have it, if you needed reasons on why being in the friendzone isn’t a bad thing there it is. P.S. if you are single and have feelings for someone of the opposite sex but don’t get the feeling back, it’s best not to even ask about it, because chances are if he/she isn’t responding to your initiations they just want to be friends and this will help you in the long run. enjoy that friendship, don’t be bitter that they don’t want to be with you because even if they don’t like you in a romantic way, that doesn’t mean they arent the blueprint for what could be your future husband or wife and maybe there is a reason they are “best friend material”.
Every team in the majors has played at least 81 games except for the Nationals who have played 80 so here is the Midseason Report of who I think should be taking home the hardware along with some disappointments and surprises.
The MLB Midseason Report:
AL Cy Young: Chris Sale(White Sox) Honorable Mention: Jared Weaver(Angels) Justin Verlander (Tigers) and David Price(rays).
NL Cy Young: R.A. Dickey (Mets) Honorable Mention: Strasburg (Nationals), Matt Cain (Giants), McDonald(Pirates)
AL MVP: Josh Hamilton (Rangers), Honorable Mention: Konerko (White Sox) Trout (Angels), Cabrera (Tigers)
NL MVP: Andrew McCutcheon (Pirates), Honorable Mention: Carlos Beltran (Cardinals), David Wright (Mets) Carlos Gonzalez (Rockies)
AL Rookie of The Year: Mike Trout (Angels) Honorable Mention: Middlebrooks(Red Sox)
AL Rookie Of the Year Pitching: Yu Darvish (rangers) Honorable Mention: Chen (orioles) Ross (Rangers) Diamond (Twins)
NL Rookie of The Year: Aoki (Brewers) Honorable Mention: Bryce Harper (Nationals)
NL Rookie of the Year Pitching: Miley (Diamondbacks) Honorable Mention: Hughes (Pirates) Fiers (Brewers)
AL: Orioles (2nd Wild Card)
NL: Pirates (lead Central over Reds and Cardinals)
AL: Tigers (consensus favorite to win central currently 4.5 back)
NL: Phillies (perennial playoff team with loaded roster currently in last in the NL East and on verge of a fire sale)